June 1, 2025 — By Wendy Sachs

Transitions are a normal part of childhood—new teachers, new babysitters, new nannies. While it can be exciting to meet someone new, it’s also a big change, especially for little ones. And let’s be honest, it’s not always easy for parents either! New caregivers mean new routines, new personalities, and often a whole new dynamic to adjust to. This is a great opportunity for growth which is what we need to focus on.

There are some simple, effective ways to help your child ease into this new chapter—and maybe even thrive because of it. Every change is a chance to grow, and with the right approach, you can turn this transition into a positive learning experience.

  1. Start with a Little Prep

A few days before the change, start talking to your child about what to expect. Let them know someone new will be helping take care of them and describe what a typical day might look like. If you’re hiring a nanny, try to set up a playdate before the official start day—this helps your child warm up to them in a low-pressure setting. Mark the days down on a calendar. Put a photo on the wall of your new friend.

  1. Keep Communication Open

Share the inside scoop with your new caregiver. Let them know your child’s daily routines, favorite snacks, bedtime rituals, and anything else that helps the day run smoothly. Got a recent family event or a funny story? Those details help build connection and understanding right away. Figure out if you will email, text, or call to keep the conversation going.

  1. Offer a Comfort Item

A familiar item from home can make all the difference. Whether it’s a well-loved stuffed animal, a favorite blanket, or even a small photo of mom or dad, having something comforting nearby can ease anxiety and help your child feel more secure.

  1. Play Separation Games

For younger kids, games like peek-a-boo and hide-and-seek can actually help with separation anxiety. These games teach object permanence (the idea that things and people still exist even when out of sight) and reinforce the idea that you’ll always come back. As kids get older try playing make believe of being with the new person, or any new person. Let the situation go smooth, or sometimes fail. By practicing the new scenario you will build confidence.

  1. Expect Some Emotional Fallout

Even if things seem smooth at first, it’s normal for kids to have an emotional reaction after the fact. You might see a little regression—think more tantrums, clinginess, or potty training setbacks. Stay calm, talk to your child about their feelings, and reassure them that they’re safe and loved. And don’t forget to keep your caregiver in the loop—they’ll want to support your child too.

  1. Celebrate

As times move on enjoy your successes. Have a party with a cake and balloons to celebrate your new relationship. Have a simple conversation with your child and talk through what worked and what didn’t. Change isn’t always easy, but it can be handled with care, patience, and a little planning. By supporting your child through the transition, you’re not just easing the adjustment—you’re helping them build resilience for the future.

Every great relationship starts with a strong beginning. If you’re navigating a change, let us help you make it smooth, positive, and full of promise. CLICK HERE for help.